I have a long story I am going to shorten.
A few weeks ago a girl I used to go to school with got in touch with me via facebook. When I say went to school with...I mean elementary and junior high. We were friends in elem. school, but in junior high...not so much. However we did become facebook friends about a year ago...but hadn't really spoken.
Anyway...she got in touch with me and told me that she needed help and didn't have anywhere to go. She wondered if she could stay with me for a few days.
Well I had her call me, and she told me she had a falling out with her parents..who now has temporary custody of her three children...and they kicked her out.
I felt so bad for her. How can a parent kick their child out on the streets with no car, no money...nothing?!
Well as the story unfolds she had been in some "shady" relationships and marriages, and her most resent relationship took her car back.
So she had nothing.
Dave said she could stay with us for one night.
She ended up staying two.
We ended up putting her up in a hotel for a week.
My parents LENT her their car.
My family gave her money.
Enough money for at least one months rent in a small apartment, or even to rent a room.
The week went by and she still had no job, and she had spent all the money and still had no place to go.
NOW she came back to my house but told me she didn't want to be alone...so at midnight the night she came back...went to some guys house. She stayed with him for that weekend.
Dave was eerked...and kinda mad.
He said she couldn't stay here any longer.
The only jobs she is looking for (or it seems) is modeling jobs.
McDonalds is hiring!
I feel like we gave her the tools (and it wasn't our responsiblity to have to do all this) to help her get her feet on the ground.
If it were me...I would have taken that money and rented a room from someone for a month. I would have went to McDonalds, Walmart..how cares where and got a job.
In two weeks I would have had my first paycheck...rent paid already...and maybe I could have bought my own $300.00 beater car.
WELL...She didn't do any of that.
She wants to model.
So that's what she is focused on.
But she wants our help.
So when we let her borrow my parents car we told her to be careful with it because it has a lot of miles on it, and it has a few little problems. We asked her to not drive far or fast.
She BLEW the engine!
We had to have it towed from CLEARFIELD!
(you all know where we live.....not clearfield..not even close!)
So I pretty much told her that I won't help her anymore.
I feel bad.
I was kinda mean.
I will help nearly anyone.
Now I'm not sure I will!
IS it mean to not help her when she is homeless.
I feel like it isn't.
I mean...we haven't spoken prior since JUNIOR HIGH!
We are almost strangers right?!
Tell me we did all we could do?